Investing in Change

Hey, y’all!

Happy Summer for any college students reading this post- and for everyone else, you are almost there.

As I am writing this, I am imagining where I would be sitting about two weeks ago. Every Tuesday and Thursday, one of my very best friends, Lizzie and I would meet at 11:30 a.m. before class to grab lunch and catch up. Amongst a semester that held some of the most anxious and mentally trying times, this was an hour that held my biggest laughs and reflection moments of sophomore year.

One of our last lunches we were discussing change and transition- and how much we hate it. “Change” is great in theory- I love new ideas, innovation, and adventure- but it never quite feels as phenomenal as it sounds beforehand.

As we were talking about changes further, what bubbled to the surface was the concept of change in people. People coming, people leaving, people transforming, people adjusting, etc., etc.

What bothered us the most wasn’t that change was happening in the “things” around us, but more how those situations were gong to change the people around us. We then looked at each other, mutually acknowledged that change was always going to happen in people around us because human beings are dynamic creatures, and then came to a bit of a dead end.

“Grow and Change” was written on a canvas in my suite the whole year. I love growth. I love it when things change for the better. What is our issue then?

A few days later, I was talking with someone who identified folks like Lizzie and I as “the investors.” “The Investors” are the people who find a lot of joy, purpose, and fellowship in the humans around us. We find a lot of our identity in our friendships and relationships, and as you can imagine, that can be a good characteristic but can also turn sour very quickly.

I would gander that possessing investing characteristics is pretty common. My personal belief is that we were built to be with others. We are hardwired to find people and be in relationships that do promote growth and change. We are supposed to be investing ourselves in people and relying on friendships.

What goes wrong is when you find yourself sitting with a best friend at lunch on a Thursday or in any situation and thinking to yourself,“ I love how things are right at this very moment, I can’t imagine it getting better…so I never want it to change.”

That is where the people who invest in people starting investing to a fault.

When you get involved with those around you, fall very in love with the relationships and groups that you have, it is challenging to comprehend how “change” could make anything better.

And, although this doesn’t sound like much of a solution for the issues that “investing” can cause- this is a struggle that I am anticipating having for the rest of my life.

Since coming home I found peace in the fact that change is happening continuously around us, but I am not going to stop investing in people just because it causes me to be fearful of change.

My Tuesday Thursday lunches with Lizzie might not be on Tuesday or Thursday at 11:30 a.m. anymore. I might not be involved in the same groups at the beginning of college vs. the end of college. People will graduate and live faraway. People may move closer. Friends might have new friends, as well as leave friendships. Majors will switch, and organizations will evolve.

If we choose to invest in people, then that means that we are also investing in the change that needs to eventually happen in their lives in order for them to grow to be better.

Although this is so simple- what I remind myself is that something had to change in order for me to have lunches with Lizzie 11:30 before class in the first place. I didn’t always do that. We made positive change, and because of that our relationship got better.

If you are struggling with this transitional season of life right now, I hope you can find peace in the fact that you are not alone. But also that when we invest, we are investing wholeheartedly- we have to invest in the change because we are investing in the people.

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Much Love,

Hadley Carter {happy hc}