Well, I’m writing this very late at night, but you most likely reading it very early in the morning as you get ready for quite possibly the strangest, most rewarding experience of your life- Formal Recruitment.
One of the most profound things I have learned in college is the idea that at the end of the day, we are all searching for love, acceptance, and belonging in communities that value and cherish us.
For some it might be in sports teams, others it may be in faith communities, or clubs, or neighborhoods, geographic areas, friend groups, really the list goes on and on. It may look completely different in each circumstance, but we are searching for love and belonging.
This one looks especially different- searching for authentic community to belong in a sorority.
It is so easy when your heart is longing for this space to cling to what is on the surface level of who we are. To cling to beauty. To cling to clothes. To cling to “saying the right things.” To cling to people pleasing. To cling to involvement. To cling outward appearance. To cling to resumes. To cling to prosperity. It is easy to reach out your hand and grasp whatever is easiest to grab onto when you are terrified that you’ll never find your genuine community.
I say this because I’ve been there, and at times, I am still there. We are all in some regards. We all desperately are searching for love, value, and worth. I’m talking about the women going through recruitment, the sisters already involved, and everyone in between. We want someone to look past the resume, the makeup, the past, the GPA, and authentically love us for what is left underneath all of those layers, even if we can’t see that ourselves at times.
So, I want to take a moment and invite you to come as you are. As you are staring at your phone right now, reading this, I want you to know that you are wanted for what is underneath every single one of those layers. You are loved more than you will ever realize. You are valuable, and you have a purpose in the communities you will end up in. I want you to take off the armor, come and be seen for who you are.
Once you do that, come exactly as you are, suddenly the spaces you can find rest and belonging will be illuminated.
You are valuable. You have a purpose. You are treasured. You are a gift. You belong. You are Loved.
So, peel back the layers, and come as you are.